What is therapy and counselling?

Therapy offers you a safe, confidential place to talk about your life and anything that may be confusing, painful or uncomfortable. It allows you to talk with someone who is trained to listen attentively and to help you improve things.

How will therapy make me feel?

Therapy is a very personal process. Sometimes it is necessary to talk about painful feelings or difficult decisions, so you may go through a period of feeling worse than when you started. However, therapy should enable you to feel better in the long-run.

If you do experience a period of feeling worse, talk to your therapist about it to ensure you get the best out of your therapy.

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In the news

17 Sep 2019

Depressions Dangerous Secret

Depressions Dangerous Secret

A new study which is the first of its kind has been published this week, which looked at the state of Mental Health among airline pilots, the study was carried out by Harvard’s Public Health School after Andreas Lubitz steering of the Germanwings flight into the French Alps.

The results of the study found that one in seven pilots suffer depression, with pilots aged in their forties being at most risk, the reality of this means that a worrying 14% of pilots reach the threshold of for clinical depression, reporting symptoms such as suicidal thoughts, trouble with concentration and feelings of failure.

One of the most worrying facts which the research uncovered was that there is a veil of secrecy being drawn over pilot’s mental health. This can of course can not only lead to disaster for the pilots concerned but can even lead to tragic events such as the one in the French Alps last year. Although this particular study only covered one profession the veil of secrecy isn’t something which is confined to pilots.

Many people who suffer with depression from a wide variety of professions feel compelled to keep it to themselves, with many failing to seek help as they fear that in doing so it will affect their long-term career prospects. At One Stop Psychotherapy, we want to do all we can to lift that veil   and as long term and committed supporters of the stamp out stigma campaign we believe more can and should be done to offer support to those who are in need.

There are many people working in high risk environments where maintaining good Mental health can be a challenge, the Police, Armed forces, Medical, Aviation in fact any job at all where pressure to succeed is high or where lifesaving decisions are being made on a daily basis. The fact is that it is all of our responsibilities to ensure the  good mental wellbeing of those who ensure that we live our lives in safety, we cannot and should not expect them to deliver the important work they do alone and without support.

With this in mind we would like to invite you all to join us in being vocal about stamping out the stigma of Mental Health, you can start by sharing this and other stories and by joining us on Facebook and twitter to spread the word, no person should be left to feel isolated and alone when dealing with any form of mental health problem, it’s the very essence of why TOSPS.com was formed, so that there would always be a place people can go 24/7 to seek help and assistance. 

14 Sep

From the blog

17 Sep 2019

Sex and Relationships

How’s you love life? Has your sex life lost its sparkle? Or do you have specific problems in this area?

Problems of this kind can be difficult to discuss. Whilst a lack of accurate information often adds to the problem and in some instances can be its cause.

As a psychologist and therapist specialising in psycho-sexual dysfunction I understand and want to help. My aim here is to provide clear information as to the nature of a good sex life and the problems that may be standing in the way of you enjoying it.

Sex is the mortar that holds the bricks of a relationship together and keeps them apart. Today we’ll deal with problems that affect both sexes.

General dissatisfaction - a need to put back the sparkle.

This often occurs due to misunderstandings about what a good sex life should be. Living in a society where there is a great deal of emphasis on sex it’s easy to feel that we are the only ones missing out. The media and associates who paint an incredibly rosy picture of their sex lives easily compound the problem.

As a rule of thumb in therapy if it’s good 80% of the time it’s good.

 Level of sex drive

You may be concerned that your sex drive is low. Or consider it excessive. Normal sex drive covers a wide spectrum. Our need for sexual activity is individual and varies from person to person just as our needs for food and sleep.

It can also vary from time to time within the individual due to factors such as illness, stress or alcohol consumption.  

However, a mismatch in the level of sex drive often causes problems in relationships.  One partner is feeling frustrated whilst the other could feel pressured to engage in sexual activity.

A high level of sex drive can distract the individual from work and other necessary activities. Or cause them to engage in risky and potentially harmful behaviour.

A very high level of sex drive is sometimes referred to as obsession or sex addiction.

Negative emotions related to sex

Some people experience negative emotions related to sex. These can include feelings of guilt or depression after sexual activity. Or negative feelings towards sex generally. Such feelings may relate to couple’s sexual activity or solo sex (masturbation).


For most couples love means exclusivity. We don’t want to share our partner and may look out for signs that s/he is interested in someone else. To some extent this is natural. However excessive jealousy or jealousy related to past partners is undesirable and can be very damaging to the relationship that the person is trying to safeguard by their watchfulness.

“Vaginismus” the inability of a female to have penetrative sex. Or anxiety about penetrative sex.

These problems clearly effect both partners in a relationship and so to some degree will any sexual problem involving one half of a couple.       

Sex related problems can happen to anyone at any time. They have several possible causes some physical, some originating in the mind. It’s necessary to see a medical doctor to eliminate physical causes before proceeding to other treatment. Psycho-sexual problems refer to situations where the individual’s thoughts and attitudes effect their ability to have an enjoyable sex life These respond well to psychotherapy.

Other causes of sex related problems are stress, the consumption of alcohol; or recreational drugs which may also be helped by psychotherapy.

As a specialist in psycho-sexual dysfunction I work with people experiencing a range of problems to help them gain or regain an enjoyable sex life.

I hope that you have found the information here helpful. Next time we’ll look at female problems. For more information see my website www.edwardshealthclinic2.co.uk

What is therapy and counselling?

Therapy offers you a safe, confidential placeto talk about your life and anything that maybe confusing, painful or uncomfortable. Itallows you to talk with someone who is trainedto listen attentively and to help you improvethings.

Therapy is a very personal process. Sometimesit is necessary to talk about painful feelings ordifficult decisions, so you may go through aperiod of feeling worse than when you started.

However, therapy should enable you to feelbetter in the long-run.

What can counselling help with?

Talking therapies, such as counselling, can be used to treat many different health conditions including:

  • depression
  • anxiety
  • borderline personality disorder (BPD)
  • obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
  • post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
  • long-term illnesses
  • eating disorders, such as anorexia nervosa and bulimia
  • drug misuse

Face to face Counselling

When life gives you issues, the pain, loss, uncertainty may feel too much to face alone.

On line face to face therapy and counselling via web cam is a great way to give you control of choosing the time and counsellor to suite your needs. You can see who you are talking to and read about your counsellor or therapist in advance , this will help you decide who you want to talk to and give you the freedom to be in control of your time, budget, and ultimately the choice in choosing the counsellor who will help you.